Jealousy in Marriage...

My dad cheated on my mom with multiple women and destroyed my family. When people cheat you don't just hurt your wife/husband, you hurt your kids, and you lose family friends. Cheating is one of the worst things you can do to a human-being.

So, since my dad cheated and I looked up to him so much, I thought everyone was a cheater. I became very jealous and I didn't trust anyone. It ruined all my past relationships and none of them had a chance because I didn't trust them

Finally one day I met this girl named Jordan and we started dating. I was jealous at first and I didn't trust her at all, but then I saw my relationship going down the drain again. I had two options to decide to let someone in and trust them or ruin everything just like all my last relationships.

I decided to trust and it was the best decision I've ever made. I ended up marrying her and we have an amazing marriage built on trust. That doesn't mean we don't feel jealous from time to time because we do. But we know that we are with each other through thick and thin forever.

My advice to you is if you don't trust people because you've been hurt is to try to trust. If people are going to cheat you can't stop them and no matter how jealous you get if they are going to cheat they are going to cheat. It doesn't help to worry. When you find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with try trusting them. Let them in and see what happens. You can't always play it safe because that' not living. You have to take risks for your happiness and for the people you can't live without.

Patience is a virtue..

Growing up my mom always told me that patience is a virtue. I'm not going to lie, naturally I do not have a lot of patience. I have a quick fuse when things get on my nerves and It's really something I have to work on. I've tried many things, but at the end of the day the only thing that has worked is focusing on God always.

A quick fuse is horrible in a marriage because little things turn into big things. My wife can do something so little and I lose my cool. I encourage if you know you have a quick fuse to find someone very patient because two short tempers is going to be horrible. Luckily, my wife is ver patient and works with me.

I also encourage you to find a way to work on your temper. You have to find what works for you, but every fight turning into a big fight is not good. Trust me, I've learned the hard way.

This is a few things you can do for your temper...
http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/anger-management/art-20045434

Date Night

When you get married you have all these new responsibilities you didn't have before. Your life gets busy and you have to catch up with it. 

I know when I was just dating my wife we would go out a lot and spend tons of time together just us two, but now that we are married quality time is getting much more difficult to have. Married couples warned me about this going into marriage, but I didn't believe them, I thought that this couldn't happen to us. Life got busy for us and we felt like we weren't getting enough alone time together.

In result of not spending enough quality time, we created a date night for us. I know it sounds kind of lame, but it actually is great for your relationship. Even though it is planned out every week, it is that quality time with just us that we need. I suggest it for every married couple. 

If your a college kid and your on a budget and married you don't have to always go out. The purpose of it is to be alone with your spouse. Y'all two could just cook dinner together and rent a movie. You can't get much cheaper than that.

If your married and your struggling to find time together make sure to set up a day every week where it's just you and wife/husband.