Patience is a virtue..

Growing up my mom always told me that patience is a virtue. I'm not going to lie, naturally I do not have a lot of patience. I have a quick fuse when things get on my nerves and It's really something I have to work on. I've tried many things, but at the end of the day the only thing that has worked is focusing on God always.

A quick fuse is horrible in a marriage because little things turn into big things. My wife can do something so little and I lose my cool. I encourage if you know you have a quick fuse to find someone very patient because two short tempers is going to be horrible. Luckily, my wife is ver patient and works with me.

I also encourage you to find a way to work on your temper. You have to find what works for you, but every fight turning into a big fight is not good. Trust me, I've learned the hard way.

This is a few things you can do for your temper...
http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/anger-management/art-20045434

Marriage and the Church

Being a newly wed isn't always filled with happiness and excitement. As I've discussed before most people say the first year is the hardest. You're learning to not be selfish and to put someone else's needs above your own. In human nature that can be difficult because we were born selfish. I took my sisters toys all the time..(Sorry sis).  It's something you have to work on when you get married because sometimes it does not come naturally.

The first thing I would suggest doing when you get married is finding a church you both feel like is your church home and that you can serve in. Once you join the church you join the young marrieds group because they have been where you were when your struggling. They can give you advice and tips on how to resolve conflict. They can also teach you how to avoid conflict.

The main reason i suggest you to join a church is without God we are nothing. We all need the God that
created us. Marriage is compared to His relationship with the church. If he is in the center of your marriage your not focusing on each other and y'all are focusing on Him. It will help your marriage drastically.

Also, when you join a young marrieds Sunday School Class, you become friends with the group. You have things in common like y'all are recently married and can go through the experiences helping each other. There is nothing wrong with having single friends, but most of the time single friends want to do single things. When you're married obviously you're not single anymore, so it's just a different life style. Having stuff in common with people is amazing and y'all can bond to become closer.

My wife and I hang out with our Sunday School Class all the time and it can be a blast!

I do...

On December 12, 2014 my entire life changed for the better. That is the day I married a girl way way to good for me. For some reason GOD chose to bless me with this wonderful, sweet, beautiful on the inside and beautiful on the outside girl to fall in love with me too.

We have only been married a month, but it hasn't been all smooth sailing.  As with every married couple you have your ups and downs, but we persevered through it. I think marriage is designed to have problems at first because you are going from dating and being around them a few hours a day to being with them every day all day. It does take some adjustment and for people to stop thinking about just themselves and start thinking about their spouse. Love is when you make someone else's happiness more important than your own. I hope to show people how to start adjusting to married life easier and quicker so maybe they don't have to go through the lows that most newly weds do.

I'm also going to be talking a lot about what marriage was designed by God to be. Which includes spiritual roles, not relying on each other, but relying on God and through him everything will take care of itself, and being obedient to God's call on your marriage.

I really hope this blog helps whoever is getting married, whoever is already married, or whoever wants to get married someday...