Before you get married you and your significant other should have a series of talks about your future together. People just rush into marriage and don't think about what they are getting themselves into and the expectations they have for their wife/husband.
Eight things to talk about before marriage
1. Religion- Do you expect your spouse to go to church with you? Do they believe in God at all?
2. Kids- How many kids do you want? Do you even want kids?
3. Debt- Us being in college do either have any debt?
4. Live- Where do you want to live? Do you want to stay in Oklahoma or move elsewhere?
5. Money- Who handles the money? Who handles the bills? Also, make sure to discuss money isn't an individuals it should be shared between the two of you.
6. Chores- This sounds silly, but you have to decide who is cleaning what? I read marriage books and this was one they said causes the most fights(Guys don't expect you wife to do all the cleaning/cooking).
7. Space- How much space do you two need? Will you always want to be together? It is healthy to spend lots of time together, but do not forget your friends.
8. Divorce- Make sure going into marriage that the two of you are in it for the long haul and that divorce is not an option. Marriage is a life long commitment and you need to put all of you into it.
Just make sure you talk to your boyfriend/girlfriend about these eight topics before you get married. They can be deal breakers. Make sure you two are on the same page before you get married and it will save a lot of fights. The first year of marriage is difficult adjusting to being with someone 24/7 and if you discuss this stuff before hand at least you two will be on the same page going into marriage.
Definitely agree with getting to know these kinds of things about someone before marriage. They seem unimportant at the beginning but I've seen so many young people jump into a marriage and end up divorced in a year because they didn't really know each other or want the same things. Good advice!
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